Find Joy in Your Singleness

By Amy Freudiger

I had a young woman write to me recently about being single.

Dear Amy,

I have been somewhat depressed lately because I have given up on true love. Most of my close friends know my crazy love life and have been trying to cheer me up. One of my friends gave me a CD of your story on how you found your prince charming and it completely inspired me! She gave it to me yesterday morning and when I couldn’t fall asleep last night, I went to my car and listened to it. It made me cry and realize that there is still hope. I just need to have faith and pray about it!! Thank you for sharing that with me. God spoke to me through you! God bless you and keep on doing what you’re great at doing, which is serving God and inspiring others!

Yours,
Alone

I’m so glad this young woman got a chance to hear my story. I know how she felt. There were times I felt the same way. But, really, being single is a gift of time, a window in which we are free to discover our passions, become really great at those passions, and seek God for why He created us in this season in history.

Friend, don’t let men’s opinions of you define your mental picture of who you are. Don’t let the fact that you are “single” make you think you’re alone, that you’re not worthy of love, that you’re not desirable, or that you will never find the right one. Don’t allow yourself to be broken into pieces by people’s opinions, betrayals, or rejections. That’s when you slowly lose that precious ability to love without walls, or you find yourself chasing love and getting taken advantage of by those who don’t know what real love is to begin with.

Guard your heart as a gift for the man who deserves it. Seek God’s will for your life, and do those things that make you truly excited. Fix those problems in the world that make you the angriest. Give what you are good at to make other people’s lives better, and you will find happiness. Once your picture of yourself is whole, healthy, and strong, THAT is when you can indeed be a great wife and lover to the one God will bring.

Love follows freedom and joy, so when you are full of life, free to be you, joyful about your personality, your giftings, and your passions, then you can find your true love—or HE will find YOU. That is what will attract the RIGHT kind of guy—your dedication to doing what God has put in you to do.

Don’t give up hope! I know it’s easy to feel rejected and hurt, but hey beautiful, did you know that GOD ENJOYS YOU? He made a guy out there who will enjoy everything about you. He will understand you for who you are. I know.

I was always very shy around guys, but I desperately wanted someone to understand me and know what was inside of me, even though I was sometimes too shy to bring it out. My husband is that person. He SO understands me and is perfect for my personality. But it took 26 years of us both learning some life lessons, finding our voice and passion, becoming good at what God has called us to do, and THEN our destinies brought us alongside each other. And wow, because of all we had done in life already, it made it all the more sweet. It’s worth the wait.

And beyond that, God’s love is always there for you. He truly is the man of your dreams, and He is crazy, head over heels about you.

Get Amy’s CD “Get Prince Charming, Not a Broken Heart”